Enjoying the Unexpected Journey

This is more of a brain dump than a blog entry but here are some of conversations I hadn’t expected and lessons I’ve especially enjoyed over the last couple of months:

Mom: She’s been so excited to share in the journey and talk about the things that she’s been processing through her transition. She knew her experience varied from her mom and sisters and that they shared info but because menopause journeys are so unique by person, she also endured many things alone.

Grammy: Has been on Premarin since her late 40’s. She’s now 89! Told me about her flashes. Laughs when explaining her process. She’s joy and grace personified.

Aunt: One of my aunts shared experiences of isolation and unique feelings about changes in beauty standards that are unique for black women. I was so touched by her perspective and reminded yet again that the menopause transition has so many layers. We talk so much about the physical changes, but menopause can be a mental and emotional landmine. It impacts us all so differently.

Cousin: Shared that she was about to undergo a hysterectomy. In the past I would have thought “okay, I hope the procedure goes well. Cheers to no more periods. Talk to you later!” I had no idea that this would mean a complete life change—in some ways for the better depending on why it’s done. However the sudden onset of menopause and all the changes that come along with it make not all be discussed.

Old Friends: Opened up about their dynamics and relationships with moms. Put me in contact with other friends who have also gone through this journey.

New Friends: Immediately ready to talk about night sweats, hair thinning. It’s been strangely exhilarating to talk about this transition as openly as I did when I was pregnant and talked to other women about that process. It’s been reassuring to know that I’m not alone and that there are so many more symptoms that I haven’t experienced.